After my divorce, I have contemplated many things about my ex-husband, and am trying to understand his behaviour.

I am one of those women who get up early in the morning to make sure her hair and makeup is nice, I make sure I look presentable, my clothes well ironed, brush my teeth on a thrice daily basis, and ensure I shower at least once a day.

Also, my career is very important to me.

My ex-husband is now living with someone the complete opposite of me.

Here are some examples:

  1. she came to our court appearances in a track suit (a track suit is like a jogging/exercise suit - and believe me, this girl hasn’t seen any exercise recently) and white trainers (the rest of us were in business suits)
  2. always looks as if she needs a wash
  3. doesnt wear makeup
  4. very bad skin
  5. never styles her hair, always in a ponytail
  6. doesn’t work - she has a couple of eBay shops selling crafts, but hasn’t been paying tax so they are investigating
  7. wears gold chains
  8. used to live in a council house
  9. wears soveriegn rings
  10. pregnant (again) out of wedlock
  11. single parent with 2 children by 2 different fathers (never married)

    12. This list can go on and on and on…

    While my beloved-husband-to-be Rob is different that my ex-husband (much younger, better looking, and doesn’t resort to power trips, manipulation, and violence), I am struggling to understand why the ex has decided to get with this girl/chav (chav is kinda like the US version of white trash).

    She isn’t pretty, she kinda smells, and its clear she doesn’t contribute to the household.

    Maybe some of you can help me understand?

    And while I am at it (bitchy advice that is) I want to say the following:

    If you don’t cook healthy meals, get takeaways most nights, spend 70% of your weekends drunk, and then go onto one of those pay-per-week diet plans, don’t get upset when you loose some water weight initially and then pile it all back on.

    Being healthy is a lifestyle change, not just something you choose on occasion.

    Cut out at least 50% of the alcohol, tinned cans of pasta in sauce, super noodles, microwave meals, crisps, and other shit you put in that filthy gob of yours, and the weight will soon come off!

    Perhaps not talking shit about people or gossiping about them whenever you get an opportunity will help you make more real-life friends, too.